When entering the lifestyle, there is swinging etiquette you should be aware of. These general rules will help make sure you have an enjoyable experience.

  • “No means no.” Guests reserve the right to stop an encounter whenever they feel uncomfortable, even if it’s in the middle of a swinging encounter.
  • Do not take rejection personally. It happens to everyone, including women.
  • Deal with your partner’s jealousy head on. Couples may need to modify their activities to maintain an open and happy relationship.
  • Always arrive and leave with your steady partner so they know that they are number one in your life.
  • Use common sense and good judgment when involved in a swinging situation.
  • Honor any rules you set with your partner prior to coming to DJ’s Island. Communication is key.
  • Respect guidelines you set with your partner and respect the guidelines of others.
Glossary of Lifestyle Terms
  • The Lifestyle – The Lifestyle is a term that was first used in the 1970’s and is basically a modern version of the term “Swingers”; however, most people in “The Lifestyle” feel it is more encompassing that just swinging. It includes people that are sexually open minded in general.
  • Full Swap – Full Swap is generally used when a couple fully swaps partners, including intercourse.
  • Soft Swap – Soft Swap is when couples exchanges partners, but do not have intercourse. Generally it is limited to swapping orally and/or heavy petting.
  • GG or Girl-Girl – Girl-Girl is where just the women play and the men watch, and/or join their partners, but do not have any interaction with the other person’s partner.
  • Same Room – If someone says they are interested in “Same Room” this may mean they are interested in Full Swap Same Room,or it may mean they are interested in having sex with their partner in the same room another couple is having sex and watching each other.
  • Unicorn – A Unicorn typically refers to a single woman in the Lifestyle. They are called Unicorns because they are pretty rare and desired by most couples.
  • MFM / FMF – MFM stands for Male, Female, Male. 2 men with 1 woman in a threesome. FMF stands for Female, Male, Female. 2 women with1 man in a threesome.
  • Safe Word or Phrase – A way to politely communicate with your partner that you are uncomfortable with the situation or you are ready to leave. i.e. “I need to use the bathroom.”
  • Hot Wife – A Hot Wife is a wife that sets up casual sex dates with other men. Typically she or her date will take photos and send them to the interested couple’s husband.
  • Hall Pass – This means that one of the individuals has permission to play on his or her own from their partner.
  • Exhibitionists – These are people that enjoy having sex while other people watch and are not necessarily Swingers.
  • Voyeurs – These are people that enjoy watching others have sex and are not necessarily Swingers.
  • Bi-Sexual – Someone who is Bi-Sexual is when someone is typically open to sexual interaction with men and women.  Bi-Sexuality is a spectrum for most people who consider themselves bi so its best not to assume bi-sexuality means the same to each person.
  • Newbies – Newbies are people new to the Lifestyle, or to a Lifestyle club or resort.
  • Vanilla – Vanilla refers to something that is non-Lifestyle. For example, a Vanilla Club, Vanilla Friends or Party.
  • Bare Back – Bare Back would refer to having intercourse without the use of a condom. This is generally frowned upon in the Lifestyle.
  • Group Sex – Is a group of people all having sex.This is what most Vanilla people think swingers do every Saturday night; however, it is a more rare occurrence. Swinging typically consists of two or three couples. Remember, if you come upon a Group situation you still must ask permission to join.
  • Site – If someone asks “What site are you on?” They are referring to a Swingers Social site
  • V Safe – This refers to a male having had a vasectomy.